Miss.Half -Glass-Empty!

I know this person... Actually , I know quite some of this kind...They are like 'poster girls' of pessimism...

For this person,life is never great.
Things are never going well.
She needs a trolley to carry her bottom lip around.
And her back must be killing her from carrying the world on her shoulders.


If she actually wanted to change and do something about her 'problems'... I'd be okay with it, but she seems to delight in her misery.
Her woe-is-me.. ness.
She has an ability to be able to pluck misery out of joy like your mother would pluck that tiny splinter from your hand when you were five.

Such people don't want my help; they just want my attention.
And sympathy.


The life lessons I learnt from these people are :

1. Every day we have the choice of having a great day... irrespective of what happens (or doesn't happen) during that day.A good or bad day is a choice, an attitude.
It's a philosophy and mindset that we take into every situation, circumstance and conversation.
It's no coincidence that some people always seem to have good days.
It ain't luck.

And then there are people who consistently make life harder than it needs to be.

2. There's stuff we can control and stuff we can't.
Don't waste your time and energy on the stuff you can't change or control. (many do).

Waaaay too many people live in (agonise in) the past... what could have, should have, would have happened.. if only... GET OVER IT.
It's done.
Move on.
Stop wasting your time, your gifts and your potential in the NOW.
Stop being held captive to your past.

3. Bitterness, anger, resentment (and all the other negative emotions).. will kill you... one way or the other.
Choose different... even when that negative emotion may be seemingly warranted or reasonable.
So many people live in those negative, destructive, paralysing emotions.

And then one day they wake up only to find they're old, grumpy, lonely, bitter people... looking for someone to be mad at.... for their crappy life.

4. Ask yourself this question.. "Am I the kind of person that people want to be around".. if your answer is no, don't feel sorry for yourself, make a decision to change.

This doesn't mean being obsessed with, or insecure about, what people think of you.
No, it means being more socially aware, less self-indulgent, more realistic, more practical and more solution-oriented.

Be the that person.
By choice.
If you don't wanna be the perpetual pain in the ass, ignored and avoided by the masses... then think different and do different to create different.
Give people a reason to want to hang out with you.

Sympathy... not a good reason.


5. Real happiness is much more about the internal stuff than it will ever be about the external stuff... so stop letting the external stuff dictate your level of joy, happiness and fulfillment. As I've said many times on this site "your world will change, when you change".